Why didn't I think of this. No... Wait... I DID!

The below was yanked from an email *I* sent my friend who is having some issuses...I took out anything that could id the friend so I could use this to make my point.
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"If you think you are pretty then you are...really if one person came up to you and said "hey you look pretty today" you would be on the top of the world right?? WHY can't that one person be you? Once you feel better about you..you will find more people around you feel better about you.

Fake it till you make it.

Self esteem is just that something ONLY you yourSELF can give to you....it will not matter what ANYBODY around you does. If you do not give it to yourSELF you will not have it....no matter if you land that great guy....... infact eventually it would push him away because having no self esteem is like a black hole of negativity it sucks all the positive energy down and leave everybody around it with the negative.

You have allot going for you. I challenge you to sit down on your next blog entry and write 50 things that are positive about yourself. and if you have trouble I can help you.

We have been polluted into thinking "if I think something nice about myself I'm being vain" and that is the WORST thing in the world. It is not vain to have confidence Vain is thinking you are better than others...but thinking you are good is NOT the same thing now is it?
and here is another part of my challenge I want you to wear an elastic band on your wrist and snap it every time you"compare" yourself to somebody else in anyway. be it looks, togetherness, skill, WHATEVER snap it...you will be surprised how often seeking somebody else achieve makes up feel bad...This is self conditioning, every time you do it snap the elastic the theory is that you will stop wanting to snap the band so you will stop doing that type of negative thought .


if that person has done the work they DESERVE to be good at it..or what have you....would you want to live in a world were everybody was unattractive and behaved like jerks? Of course not so celebrate there differences and their successes, feeling envy will fill your heart and soul with negative emotions which will seep from you like sweat and stink 10X as bad

You are doing the work on yourself ...so the challenge . POST 50 things good about yourself no matter how small. and the elastic band on wrist to stop comparing to others.....and here is one more thing every morning when you do you "wake up rituals" look in the mirror and say "I am a good person who has alot to offer the world and I will make the most out of today". ( here is the tricky bit believe in it too!"

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Have you ever had a moment when the light turned on ( I'm certain most of you have) Has it ever been gaining insight into what you need to do when advising a friend? This happened to me. All the stuff above was stuff I had written my friend who is having troubles...as I was making the arguments and points...I realized "yeah that's right" "I need to do that too!" I guess it is good that birds of a feather flock together so we are able to take our own advice. as well as our friends :) Specially the self esteem stuff...it was stuff I KNEW but it never actually occurred to me in THAT way until I wrote it for my friend... So thank you "friend" for making me think through it.